25. The Parenthood Podcast: The Postmasters Talk Kids & Art & How to Deal

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Lacy attempts to write with a 4-year-old office mate

It’s the parenthood podcast! Art and parenthood. What gets sacrificed? What is more important? How does one feed the other? Lacy (at 37-weeks pregnant) and Audrey (with a 4-month old in her arms) address the way motherhood affects the writing life, both directly and indirectly [25:48].

 

Highlights

Lacy on completing an MFA as the mother of young kids:

“I had a three-year-old and an almost one-year-old… and they were just so much for me to handle… I just knew that if I didn’t do something to make myself write–which, for me, came out as an MFA–that I would go crazy. So, that’s why I did it, for my sanity. It was crazy to try to do an MFA with really young kids, but it would have been crazier not to.”

Audrey on keeping a journal as a brand new mom:

“It’s not even a journal about my days. It’s more like a journal that forces me to write something happy that happened, so that I am aware of that thing, because it’s so much easier to dwell on the bad stuff… I’ve started calling it Dispatches from the Isle of Motherhood.”

Audrey on the necessity of continuing to write:

“Writing is the way I figure things out. I need to write in order to get through [early motherhood] in a healthy manner in my mind, but I don’t always have the time or the energy to do it. And the days when I do get something out on paper are better than the days when I don’t.”

Lacy speaking truth:

“It’s important to be really forgiving of yourself, really generous with yourself.”

Who’s Who

Purity by Jonathan Franzen

Zadie Smith

Ayelet Waldman

Zoë Harris

Barbara Kingsolver

Susanna Hislop

Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison

The Same Sky by Amanda Eyre Ward

The Dear Sugar Podcast by Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond

Closing Quote

I say this in spite of the fact that children are giant endless suck machines. They don’t give a whit if you need to sleep or eat or pee or get your work done or go out to a party naked and oiled up in a homemade Alice B. Toklas mask. They take everything. They will bring you the furthest edge of your personality and abso-fucking-lutely to your knees. They will also give you everything back. Not just all they take, but many of the things you lost before they came along as well.”
Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar

09. #readwomen2014: In which, Lacy and Audrey talk books.

09. #readwomen2014: In which, Lacy and Audrey talk books.

Joanna Walsh started the twitter hashtag #readwomen2014 after drawing some bookmark-shaped New Year’s cards showcasing her favorite female writers. She had been inspired by two literary journalists—both male—who didn’t want to show up on the wrong side of this year’s VIDA pie chart, and so made a commitment to read only female authors for a set period. Today, we discuss our personal responses to the #readwomen2014 movement, and recommend some of our favorite books by women. (26:09)

VIDA

Established in 2009, VIDA is a nonprofit literary organization that painstakingly tallies the gender disparity in major literary publications and book reviews annually. Today, the literary world is abuzz with the results of the most recent VIDA count.

Recent Reads We Recommend

Suite Francaise by Irene NemirovskySuite Française by Irène Némirovsky

“The prose is saturated in the blood of the people who were running away [from Paris during WWII]. It takes this incredibly close look at the way life can change so suddenly from everything-is-normal to Lord of the Flies.”

Bonus: Anne Frank: The Diary of a Young Girl

Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth StroutOlive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout

“Usually books are about younger characters, but Olive Kitteridge is older. Everyone in the story, mostly, is older. By the end I felt like I’d lived this lifetime… like I’d been through her lifetime. And it weighed heavily on me in a really interesting way.” Continue reading

06. Running, Writing & Retreats: A Dialogue with Writer Sarah Shaffer

Sarah Shaffer

Sarah Shaffer

Sarah Shaffer is a writer and freelance proofreader/copyeditor, a recent transplant to Seattle, and a lover of the outdoors and simple living. She is an MFA graduate from Lesley University (January 2012). Her fiction has received a Glimmer Train honorable mention and has been published at The Glass Coin. Her non-fiction can be found at Hothouse Magazine. (21:23)

Website: www.sarahshaffer.com

Twitter: @SarahSShaffer Continue reading